Monday, July 7, 2014

It's not easy being green

 Outfit Details:
Emily and Fin dress: ASOS
Petticoat & belt: eBay
Basket purse: Mom's
Ring: Ever Ours (similar)
Flats: YesStyle



 
 
I hadn't worn this dress in quite a while -- probably since this time last year.  It's one of my swapping dresses for Flock Together, and seeing Katie style it inspired me to wear it again.  Emily and Fin is a great label, and their dresses are especially well-suited for the summertime.  I really love the length of this one, in particular.  I own two other Emily and Fin dresses (see how I wore them here and here), and I love their vintage-inspired, casual vibe.  Side note, I ended up changing the title of this post to be something more-fitting for its content, and I later realized that it also makes a lot of sense with my little bicycle ring (because after all, Kermit is a bike-riding frog).  I appreciate serendipity.




I've kind of been "in my head" a lot lately.  Everyone grieves differently, and I think I'm still reeling from everything that's happened over the past year.  I feel a lot of pressure to act like I'm doing okay.  Sometimes, I really am.  But other times, I'm not.  People tend to forget to be patient and understanding when it isn't a situation that's directly affecting them.  I certainly don't want to drive people away by fixating on everything.  But the truth of the matter is, I'm not over my breakup, and I'm certainly not over the death of my friend.  I'm not sleeping well, and I've been having more intense mood swings than usual (I'm prone to them anyway, but they're definitely worse than normal).  I don't want to ramble on about it, but I'm definitely struggling.  Time supposedly heals all wounds, but I'm very impatient to start feeling like myself again.


   I hope you have a nice start to your week.
xox Sammi

18 comments:

  1. After seeing the bicycle ring, I totally thought that was why you chose the title for this post, and not because of the green dress, haha! The fit/color of this dress is totally sweet, and it looks lovely on you. Also, I'm so sad to hear that you are going through a rough time, but it is to be expected. You don't have to feel like you need to be happy. Grieving over a break up AND a death of a close friend definitely takes time, and no one expects you to just bounce back. Take your time, and your readers will be here to support you along the way.

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    1. Thank you for your kind words, sweet lady!

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  2. that ring is so cool! and I love the basket purse.
    x
    www.staygoldrebecca.com

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  3. Okay, so, you are adorable in this, that color is so pretty on you.

    More seriously though, so very sorry to hear how you feel not quite like yourself. You are right everyone has things happen in their own time, their own season, and we all react differently. You must do what you need to. <3

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    1. Very true. Thank you for your friendship, Kristian <3

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  4. Such a cute outfit!

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  5. I'm sorry you've been feeling so down lately. I feel like everyone has their own way of grieving and it's okay to take your time. You do look gorgeous though and that dress is absolutely beautiful on you!

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    1. Thanks, sweet friend. Sometimes you just need to hear that it's okay to figure out your own process, you know? <3

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  6. I am in no way qualified to offer anyone advice on much of anything, much less a stranger on the internet, but... a couple of years ago I lost my dog, my dad, my job, and broke up with my boyfriend all in the course of about 3 months. It was the roughest time of my life, and I spent a not-insignificant amount of time either panicking or crying. It still really hurts when something reminds me of my dad or my dog, but with a little time I've come to appreciate it. It means that they're still close enough to my heart that I feel the loss. They're not there any more, but all of the love that I had for them still is, and that thought makes the pain a little bit easier to bear. Grief is a really personal thing, and it sucks when it feels like people are distancing themselves from you because of it, but it can be really hard to know what to say to someone who's going through a rough patch. When I starting feeling a little bit more like myself, some of the people that I was angry at for not being there for me sincerely apologized, and admitted that they just didn't know what to do to help me. Maybe some of your friends will do the same.
    But hey, I love that dress! Polka dots are a great mood elevator. ;)

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    1. Jessica: I am so very sorry to hear about that. I don't know how I could possibly cope with that. Thank you so much for your sweet words; if nothing else, it is a comfort to know that I am not alone. By the way, you have a beautiful blog, and I will be following along :) xox

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  7. Perfect!! Great your polka dots dress:) xx
    Bianka
    http://ruhamania.blogspot.hu/

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  8. While I don't have one myself, Emily and Fin dresses always look so pretty. You had the right idea... It's perfect for a picnic. :)

    Sorry to hear about your troubles. Time definitely helps, but everyone deals with grief differently. Don't be so hard on yourself!

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  9. I hate that you're going through such a hard time. I really understand what you said about other people being less patient. They forget or don't realize you're still hurting. The only thing I can recommend is to do things for yourself that you enjoy and get plenty of sleep. Even taking naps boosts my mood when I'm feeling down!

    Take care of yourself! Time will make you feel better, but that's really no consolation right now, I know.

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  10. I hate that society puts this pressure on everyone that if something is wrong hurry up and get over it, when thats not always the case, some things are more serious to that person then it may seem outwardly, not only that but things effect everyone differently and so the healing process is different. I think its some by product of the instant gratification society we have become. Either way keep doing what you need to do and just know there are people who truly care about you and your well being and want to see you feeling better, but maybe just don't understand what you are going through. Either way you are an awesome girl (from what I can gather from your blog) and you deserve to be happy.
    Justine
    http://theredlipchronicles.blogspot.com

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  11. First of all you're beautiful, inside and out. I really sympathize with you because I was in a similar situation about a year ago... It's just a lot to deal with. Someone once told me that you just have to focus on doing the "next right thing." Don't think in long term, unless that's something that you always do...But focus on your emotional state in the here & now is often easier than thinking about it a week from now, etc. That little piece of advice really helped me last year and I hope that you find some type of light at the end of the tunnel soon. You're going to be alright, but it's okay to not feel alright right now. Allow yourself the time to grieve properly and everyday that weight on your shoulders will feel lessened. Sending you some good vibes! :)

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  12. Hi Sammi, so sorry to hear you are having a hard time. I think when others are not having a hard time, it's not easy for them to understand or be patient. Which is frustrating and can kind of make you feel worse. Hard times I think are especially difficult for those that feel they should suffer quietly and alone, not wanting to burden others, but you have the strength within to get through this pain. You can do it.

    Hana

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  13. Just came across your blog and I have to say I'm in love! You're absolutely stunning! I can't get enough of that dress either!

    Marie,
    http://www.mariedarling.com/

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  14. You look stunning as ever. I admire how frequently you blog, despite going through so much. I'm so sorry you have been having such a rough time, I wish there were some easy fix, but with time I know you will start to feel better. But for now, take as much time for yourself as you need. Surround yourself with the things that make you happiest and spend the necessary time with yourself. Just know, scads of ladies are thinking of you and wishing you the best <3

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